14 Little Thoughts That Can Shatter Your Dreams

Looking Out At Sea

Written by Steven Aitchison

Like a rough cut diamond cutting through glass, your negative thoughts can penetrate your defences to leave broken shards of glass strewn across your mind.  These tiny little time bombs might not seem like a big deal now, but in time they grow, they fester and eventually shatter your dreams.

We all have negative thoughts that play on our mind day in and day out, but we have to catch them before they set in, and bury themselves in the deep recesses of your mind.

Take back control

There’s so much stuff we can’t control in our lives, and yet taking charge of our own thoughts is one of the easiest, with practice, things we can control.  So, it makes sense to take control of everything we can in order to start living the life we desire.

A lot of people I speak to say ‘oh, it’s impossible to stay positive all the time, it’s just not realistic.’  Whilst it’s not impossible, I am not advocating that the world is all unicorns and rainbows, but what I am suggesting is at least take some control back of of our thoughts by being mindful of how we think, what we say, and how we act.   It all starts with your thoughts: your beliefs, your words, your actions, your habits, your values and eventually your destiny.

So here’s a few of the worst culprits:

1. I’ve had my heart broken too many times to love again

Surprisingly I hear this a lot from the readers on my Facebook page, and it just doesn’t make sense.  You may have had your heart broken, but that means you weren’t with the right person.  By learning just how much to open up emotionally to someone you learn more and more about yourself and exactly how much you are worth. You are worth so much more than you think, so stop giving people discounts, but don’t give up on love.

2. I’m not good enough

Effectively what you’re saying here is ‘I can’t be bothered to take the time and become good enough.’  That sounds a bit harsh, but think about it for a second, nobody was good enough until they put in the time and effort to become good enough.  This goes for everything in your life whether you want to write a book, become an actor, start a business, or raise a child.

3. I don’t have enough time to do that

Okay if we’re being really honest here, you’re really saying ‘This is not important enough for me to give it my time.’  I am terrible at sending out birthday cards on time and I always make the same excuse ‘I’m just so busy with other stuff that it slipped my mind.’ which is utter rubbish, I have everyone’s birthday on my calendar in my kitchen, but I keep putting off getting that birthday card until the last minute.  So I am effectively saying your birthday is not as important as all the other stuff I have going on in my life, which is a selfish.  So now if I ever miss a birthday I drive over to the person’s house which can be 50 miles away and give them their card, which is just mental :)

4. I wasn’t born with the talent to do that

Nobody is born knowing how to play the piano, or knowing how to play golf, or how to write.  Yes, some people have a natural aptitude for doing certain things, but they’re not born with the knowledge.  If you really want to do something in life which requires a degree of skill, and I mean really want it, you need to put in the effort to master that skill.

5. I will put my dream on hold until I have done (insert something here)

If you’re not living your own dreams you’re helping someone else live theirs.  Your dreams are an important part of living life to the full and without them, you might just wake up on your 70th birthday and think ‘Shit, I wish I had chased my dream, instead of working all those hours for someone else.’

6. What if I fail

So what if you fail, at least you’ve have learned something along the way.  When you jump a net usually appears to support you.  Not doing something you want to do for fear of failure is failure itself.

7.  It’s too difficult

Nobody ever grows inside their comfort zone.  What that means is if it’s not challenging then it’s not worth having, you won’t learn anything.  Imagine for a second if everything you wanted in life came to you easily: you wanted to become an Indie 500 driver, boom you got it, you wanted to write a best selling novel, boom you get it on your first try.  Pretty soon you would become bored with life and nothing would challenge you.  We need things to be difficult in order to appreciate the journey we took to reach our goals.

8. They were so lucky to get to where they are today

This is a biggie.  I used to think this a lot before I started my online business.  I would look at people like Eben Pagan, Frank Kern, Jeff Walker and my other online heroes and think ‘Yeah but you started at a time when it was easy’ or ‘yeah but you’ve got the personality to pull that off’ or other excuses for me not being able to become a success.  As soon as a realised just how hard these people worked to get to where they are today, I changed my whole way of thinking and got off my arse and worked harder until things started happening.

9. My life is shit

Please! Get off the ‘poor me’ train, and believe me I’ve been on that train many times in my life.  You have so much to be thankful for it’s just not real.  you might say, you don’t know my situation, and that’s true, but whatever way you look at it you can always find a ton of reasons to be grateful for the life you have.

10. It’s just not the right time

So many relationships, businesses, dreams, and goals have been broken with this one little thought.  There’s never a good time to start anything.  The important thing is to start it with a good heart and keep going and give it your very best shot.

11. I’m too old

Eh! No you’re not.

12. People don’t like me

Sorry, you’re not a mind reader, you can’t possibly know if people like you or not.  This is all to do with feeling uncomfortable in your own skin.  Work on yourself so that you’re so comfortable with yourself that you just don’t care what others think of you, at least this way you’re being true to yourself.

13. One lie is not that bad

One lie leads to another to cover up the first one, and then it snowballs from there.  Practice being radically honest, if someone asks your opinion about something ask them first if they really want to know what you think, that way the people who really want the truth will value what you have to say.  Don’t lie to cover up your embarrassment of a situation, come clean, take the consequences and move on, at least you’ll gain some respect for being honest.

14. I wish I was intelligent enough

Big secret here: you’re as intelligent as you believe you are.  If you believe you’re a not intelligent then guess what, your brain looks for ways to prove you’re not intelligent.  If you want to start to believe you’re intelligent, start feeding your brain intelligent material, and it sure as hell isn’t watching the latest episode of ‘The Real Housewives of ‘I’ve got so much money and bored that I’ll make a TV program about it’

Over to you

I’ve just read over this list again and it comes across as being a bit harsh, but I hope you take it in the way it’s intended which is a gentle kick up the arse :)

Original Story at http://www.stevenaitchison.co.uk/blog/14-little-thoughts-that-can-shatter-your-dreams/ Steve has amazing insight. check him out.

Life is about Dancing in the Rain

Dancing in the Rain

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29 Warren Buffett Quotes on Investing & Success

Warren Buffett is obviously incredibly successful. He has built his wealth long term to over 70 billion dollars, making him the second richest man in America. Warren lives by his certain set of values that he uses to invest and make other life decisions. He has some great advice that we can use to be successful.

Take a look at 29 intelligent and inspiring quotes from Warren Buffett on investing and success from one of the world’s most wealthy people.

1) Buffett’s Only Two Rules For Investing…

“Rule No. 1: Never lose money. Rule No. 2: Never forget rule No.1”

2) The Market Can Price Things Wrong

“Price is what you pay. Value is what you get.”

3) High Returns With Low Risk is the Key

“Risk comes from not knowing what you are doing.”

4) Get Around the Right People

“It’s better to hang out with people better than you. Pick out associates whose behavior is better than yours and you’ll drift in that direction.”

5) It’s Easier to Look Back Than to Look Into the Future

“In the business world, the rearview mirror is always clearer than the windshield.”

6) Buy Wonderful Companies

“It’s far better to buy a wonderful company at a fair price, than a fair company at a wonderful price.”

7) Your Public Image and Reputation

“It takes 20 years to build a reputation and five minutes to ruin it. If you think about that, you’ll do things differently.”

8) It’s OK to Dream Big

“I always knew I was going to be rich. I don’t think I ever doubted it for a minute.”

9) Invest for the Long Term

“Only buy something that you’d be perfectly happy to hold if the market shut down for 10 years.”

10) Buy It Thinking You Will Hold It Forever

“Our favorite holding period is forever.”

11) People Make Investing Seem More Difficult Than it Should

“The business schools reward difficult complex behavior more than simple behavior, but simple behavior is more effective.”

12) Doing Nothing is Often the Right Thing to Do

“You do things when the opportunities come along. I’ve had periods in my life when I’ve had a bundle of ideas come along, and I’ve had long dry spells. If I get an idea next week, I’ll do something. If not, I won’t do a damn thing.

13) On Finding Honesty in Others

“Honesty is a very expensive gift. Don’t expect it from cheap people.”

14) Appreciate Where You Came From

“Someone’s sitting in the shade today because someone planted a tree a long time ago.”

15) Give Back to Society

“If you’re in the luckiest 1% of humanity, you owe it to the rest of humanity to think about the other 99%.”

16) Don’t Make Investing Difficult

“There seems to be some perverse human characteristic that likes to make easy things difficult.”

17) Make Your Own Forecasts

“Forecasts may tell you a great deal about the forecaster; they tell you nothing about the future.”

18) It’s Usually Best to Just Say “No”

“The difference between successful people and really successful people is that really successful people say no to almost everything.”

19) Do What You Love

“In the world of business, the people who are most successful are those who are doing what they love.”

20) Actions vs. Results

“You know… you keep doing the same things and you keep getting the same result over and over again.”

21) Invest Only in Companies You Know and Trust

“An investor should act as though he had a lifetime decision card with just twenty punches on it.”

22) Manage Your Time Better

“You’ve gotta keep control of your time, and you can’t unless you say no. You can’t let people set your agenda in life.”

23) Great Investors Don’t Diversify

“Diversification is protection against ignorance. It makes little sense if you know what you are doing.”

24) Seize Great Opportunities and Load Up the Truck

“Opportunities come infrequently. When it rains gold, put out the bucket, not the thimble.”

25) History Doesn’t Dictate the Future

“If past history was all that is needed to play the game of money, the richest people would be librarians.”

26) Choose Your Heroes Wisely

“Tell me who your heroes are and I’ll tell you who you’ll turn out to be.”

27) Make Long Term Investments Over Short Term Ones

“If you aren’t thinking about owning a stock for 10 years, don’t even think about owning it for 10 minutes.”

28) Don’t Be Greedy

“…not doing what we love in the name of greed is very poor management of our lives.”

29) Spend Time on Personal Development

“The most important investment you can make is in yourself.”

Embedded from Rule One Investing

2 Things Before Every Speech

2 Things the Most Successful Speakers Do Before Every Speech

Doing this may improve your talk 100%.

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It was fall 2014. I had one more talk to give before I headed home to finish a two-week run of events and speaking engagements across the country. As I sat in the hall eating lunch with some of the attendees, one of them asked me what I was planning to speak about.

It was a simple question but what happened next revealed two powerful lessons.

First, I didn’t answer. Instead I asked the people at the table what they wanted me to talk about, and I listened to what they said.

I always prepare before every talk I give. I research the audience, understand what they want to learn and adjust my talk to focus on the issues that mean the most to them. But the most powerful form of preparation any speaker can do is to listen.

Talk to the audience, listen to their needs and hear their concerns. Nothing reveals more clearly what will most engage an audience. It’s the best preparation you can do.

It was good that I listened before my talk because what the people at my table told me surprised the living daylights out of me.

I talk about social media marketing, about business success, about making money with Google and about online entrepreneurship. They wanted me to talk about… photoquotes. Just photoquotes.

Photoquotes are the images with inspiring quotes that I share on social media. They’re a bit of fun that people seem to like.  It was a surprising choice but I listened. And I did it. I changed my talk.

That was the second lesson. I hadn’t prepared a talk on photoquotes but I had prepared a talk on social media content.  Because I knew my topic so well, it was easy to adjust a talk that I had prepared to take into account the information that my audience had told me it most wanted to know.

The audience loved that talk. In fact, they loved it so much that I turned my photoquotes into a book. That book sold so well that I published a second one.

When you’ve prepared so well that you really know your stuff, you can adjust on the fly and impress any audience you meet.

Those two things that keynote speakers do before a talk–listen to the audience; know their stuff–don’t just apply to speakers. They also apply to everyone who has to address an audience.

If you’re making a pitch to a potential new customer or to a venture capitalist, you’re not going to have too much time to grill them about their interests. But you may well have some time for a bit of small talk before you make your pitch. Use that time to ask them what they’re looking for. Listen to what they tell you. And know your product and your company well enough to be able to adjust the talk you’ve prepared.

From Inc. http://www.inc.com/joel-comm/the-2-things-top-keynote-speakers-learn-to-do-before-every-single-speech.html

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10 Behaviors of Genuinely Successful People

Monday’s Top 10

Entrepreneur  Steve Tobak, Entrepreneur             mark-zuckerberg

Feb. 14, 2016, 10:00 AM

We live in a strange time. People can call themselves anything they want and get away with it.

If you believe what they write about themselves, pretty much everyone’s a CEO, an entrepreneur, a leader, a startup founder, an award-winning keynote speaker, a best-selling author, or a self-made millionaire.

That’s how it seems, anyway. In reality, the only people these phonies fool are fools. Granted, there must be a lot of fools out there, but you don’t have to be one of them.

Look, the world is full of successful people. As a veteran of the high-tech industry, I live and work in Silicon Valley. You can’t walk down University Avenue in Palo Alto without bumping into at least four or five CEOs and VCs — not the fake kind, but the real deal. Unfortunately, you’d never know it. They’re not that easy to recognize.

The question is, how can you tell the difference between truly accomplished executives and business leaders who have something to offer you and the “fake it ‘til you make it” shysters who spew all sorts of BS all over the blogosphere, social media, and self-help business books? Simple. By their behavior. This is how real successful people behave.

They run real companies.

They have real careers. They run real companies with real products and customers. They have real experience managing businesses and leading organizations that you’ve probably heard of. If all their bio talks about are books, seminars, and speeches, they’re not the real deal.

Related: What Makes a Successful Entrepreneur? Perseverance

They love their work.

If you ask Tim Cook, Mark Zuckerberg, or Satya Nadella what they do for a living, all you’ll hear about is Apple, Facebook, and Microsoft. They’re passionate about their work and proud of their company’s products and achievements. Success may come with the territory, but it’s not what drives them.

They do things their own way.

The way they lead and the culture they build is never copied and pasted from somewhere else. Sure, they have mentors and sometimes stand on the shoulders of giants, but they still do things their own way, follow their own instincts, and have little patience for the status quo.

They know what they don’t know.

The vast majority of accomplished people possess humility. The ones who don’t usually pay for their hubris, sooner or later. That’s not to say that CEOs don’t have strong egos, but when you’re smart and experienced, you simply know that you don’t have all the answers … and that anyone who acts like he does is full of it.

They have common sense.

If it sounds too good to be true, it is. If it sounds utopian, it isn’t real. If it sounds like wishful thinking, it’s nothing but fluff. If it’s a quick fix, a magic bullet, a miracle cure, or some personal habit, it’s just a foolish fad. Successful people are savvy. They think for themselves. They have common sense. And they can smell BS a mile away.

They’re never satisfied with their own accomplishments.

Great CEOs and VCs are usually perfectionists who are never satisfied with their own achievements. They always want to do better — to build the next product customers love or fund the next great startup. They know that business success is about growth; it’s a marathon without a finish line.

Related: Real Leaders Own Their Mistakes

They’re not super-visible.

Of course there are successful people who are highly visible — Mark Cuban and Donald Trump come to mind — but they’re rare. Most are not the slightest bit interested in being famous. If fame and fortune is what drives you, I’m afraid you’re going to be gravely disappointed with the outcome.

They’re not trying to sell you anything.

Real executives and business leaders may write a book or a blog, and after they retire they may give a speech or two, but in general, they made their living running and growing their companies and selling products, not getting you to break out your wallet to hear their pearls of wisdom.

They don’t self-promote.

They don’t have to. Their careers, their accomplishments, the success of their companies speak for themselves. You’ll never hear them breath a word about how much money they have or make. They tend to be fairly modest. There are some flashy exceptions but they’re few and far between.

They don’t preach.

They’re generally not inspirational or motivational — unless, of course, you’re one of their employees or customers. They don’t think they possess the key to success, happiness, productivity, or any of that nonsense. They may offer lessons learned from real world experience, but they don’t do shtick. If it sounds gimmicky, then it is.

Look at it this way. How well you do in life is based entirely on the work you do, the decisions you make, and the actions you take. When all is said and done, you want to look back and feel proud of what you’ve accomplished. You want to feel good about the life you led and the impact you had on others. And you want to know you lived your own life on your own terms.

None of that will ever come to pass if you’re a fool who follows phonies.

Be sure to check out Steve’s new book, “Real Leaders Don’t Follow: Being Extraordinary in the Age of the Entrepreneur,” and his new blog at stevetobak.com.

Posted on Business Insider

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